Friends are great to have in this world, aren’t they? You know what’s also nice to have? Goals. Goals create a sense of purpose in life that you would otherwise not get if you were just trying to be like everyone else and float by. Having goals and having friends make life worth the amount of work and struggle one has to endure in order to get by each and every day. What happens when your friends don’t support your goals or actively tell you to stop pursuing them? Do you listen to your friends and heed their advice? Do you just pursue your goals even at the cost of friends? For this type of question, there is no one size fits all answer. The reason that it’s not just a simple yes or no question is that in real life, there are variables one has to consider before making any decision that could alter their life. Choosing between friends and family or your life goals is not an easy pill to swallow. When faced with this question, what can be done to live a satisfying existence?
When considering making a choice between friends and goals, one must consider what goals you are trying to accomplish. Is the goal realistic? You can’t just ditch friends if your goals are ridiculous and you’re not actively pushing towards them. There are people who probably want to be rappers or in the NBA who have not worked on their skills in either category. In this case, your friend is being a friend and just trying to save you the trouble of embarrassing yourself. No one is entitled to getting what they want in life just because they want it. Things take time and work. However, if you are actively pursuing your goals and making sacrifices to accomplish them, is your friend being a friend?
While discussing friends looking after your best interest if you’re pursuing a goal with unrealistic expectations, some will ask if they’re being a friend if you’re working hard to accomplish goals without the unrealistic fantasy mindset. The answer can honestly be either a yes or a no depending on their approach and intent. If a friend approaches you respectfully, tells you what to expect from your goals, and tries to track progress with you, they’re being a friend and you may want to consider their advice before making a choice.
If the friend approaches you with negativity and offers no constructive criticism, then this person is wasting your time. You don’t need someone around if they offer you no solutions and stand in your way of accomplishing your goals. You will often meet people who are afraid to accomplish their own goals that wish to put their two cents on everything you’re doing. The problem with this is they don’t offer alternatives other than giving up. Unfortunately, misery loves company. Your life is your choice, therefore, you either cut off the negative force that is in your way or you will fail in reaching your goals.
The best thing you can do is try to decide what is more important to you. Is your goal worth throwing away long friendship or is it worth it to sacrifice friendship for something you’ve always wanted to do? Is there a possible compromise between friends and goals? Ultimately, that will be up to you when you weigh your options. No one can make your decisions for you. Until the next Daydream, everyone.