Do you ever ask yourself if the people you associate yourself with are the people you want to associate yourself with? Is there a disconnect between you and the people who regularly appear in your life? Do you often feel more alone in your social circles than you do when you’re actually by yourself? If you have answered yes to any of these questions, then you’re the reason why you’re not where you want to be in life.
The problem many people in America and abroad face is one of constant loneliness even in a crowded room. That is usually due to the fact that although they interact with others on a regular basis, they could care less for the people they are forced to associate themselves with. People are either forced to deal with them as in the case of the workplace or they’re too cowardly to tell the people who interfere in their daily lives to just go away.
In the case of work, you will almost always have to deal with people you don’t like. The best way to deal with that is to keep everything work related and not to get too close to the other coworkers. You don’t need to have friends in the workplace to keep everything in order. I’ve always found that being polite yet not getting too close has worked well. Sure, it has made me temporary enemies from time to time, but when you’re in the workplace to work, there is a sense of peace you don’t find when getting too chummy with the crowd. I don’t exactly relate to the people I work with, so there’s no need to let them get too close to my personal life.
It is easy to say that most people tend to have friendships they don’t value. Humans are a social animal and people tend to feel as though they need acceptance so badly that they are willing to deal with people who they don’t necessarily care for just to fit in. That is the main reason they accept toxic people in their lives. Humans want acceptance, so they sacrifice happiness for acceptance. If one is to allow people they don’t care for in their company, they will be seen as not having any self-respect. You are only as good as the company you keep.
Aside from fitting in with the crowd, there is a more selfish reason for staying in contact with people they’re not too fond of. Most stay in touch with these people due to some sort of personal benefit. There’s a tradeoff to be had when it comes to maintaining relations with people they don’t like. People think it will help gain acceptance in social circles or they think it will get them something they like in return for putting up with this person. This is not worth it. People keep these relationships they want out of laziness and the sooner you stop this, the easier your life will be.
The only way to avoid being lumped in with a certain crowd is to honestly not build any sort of relationships with them. It’s not worth it to associate yourself with people you have no interest in. You’re wasting your life if you let the perception of the crowd put a chokehold on your existence. You will eventually start to regret not doing what you wanted because you did what was expected of you. This mindset of fitting in a social circle and allowing even the worst type of people into your life can ruin it as quickly as any addiction. The best thing one can do is let go of the people they want nothing to do with. It is often better to be alone than to be in the company of people who cause you trouble. Ask yourself why you’re associating with toxic people in your life. When you find that there’s no genuine benefit, you should let them go as quickly as possible.
So, if there is anything to be said in this blog, it is that you choose your associations in life. If you let your associations choose how you live, you’re not living your life. You’re simply enduring it. It is far easier now than it has ever been to break free of the need of others who do not help you live a fulfilling life. Allowing toxicity in your life allows them to control how you live. It signals to others that you deserve to be treated badly and they will follow suit. Life is too short to be afraid of anything. If you want the company you keep to stop destroying your life, don’t associate with them no matter what you lose in the process. Sacrifices are meant to be made in this world. You’re sacrificing something whether you go or stay, so you may as well give up on the people who make your life worse.
Until the next daydream……..
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